Sometimes, I allow my temper to get the better of me and when I do... I jump to react.
But, the problem with reacting during a moment of intense emotion, is that I often say things or do things I later regret.
When I let my emotions take over, I act from a place that is not in line with my spiritual path.
Reacting without stepping back to calm my mind leads me to make assumptions... assumptions that often prove to be inaccurate.
Today, I try my best to walk away from a heated moment and give myself time to process the situation and use logic to clearly think on the problem.
Then, when I feel that I can approach the situation again with a bit of compassion and a bit of maturity, I do so... sure in my behavior.
"Dear God, help me to be rational. Help me to choose to react as a loving and kind adult in all situations that may try my spiritual growth."
I Choose Serenity
Two sentences spoken at the first Al‑Anon meeting I attended made me sit up and take notice: “How Important Is It?” and “You may be right.” Each represented a 180-degree change in the way I looked at, and dealt with, the problems caused by my teenage son’s alcoholism. At the time, I didn’t believe either one, but they stuck in my head and proved to be both life-changing and a source of strength.
Everything was important to me back then. I had to respond to every provocation and crisis. It was my job as the mother to make things right, wasn’t it? And the very idea of telling someone who was spouting nonsense that he “could be right” was ridiculous! He was obviously wrong and it was I, with my lecturing, nagging, and instructing, who was right, wasn’t I?
As the months and years passed, and I absorbed more of the Al-Anon program, I realized that I could choose to continue to see myself as always right and to keep on responding to everything (and continue to be miserable), or I could choose serenity. Letting the little stuff (and even some of the bigger stuff) go and admitting that somebody else might be right (even when I know that they aren’t) have been stepping stones to finding “contentment and even happiness whether the alcoholic is still drinking or not.”
Ann R., Texas, South Carolina, May 2015
Reprinted with permission of The Forum
Al-Anon Family Groups Incorporated, Virginia Beach, VA
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